The Importance of Authenticity and Selfless Service

In today's competitive business landscape, it is crucial to approach opportunities with sincerity and a genuine desire to help others. This essay aims to shed light on the inherent flaws in statements that begin with "I want" and emphasize the significance of authenticity and selflessness in building successful businesses, finding personal fulfillment, and achieving enlightenment.

A couple things to watch out for….

Flawed Motives:

Satements that start with "I want," signaling a self-centered approach to helping others. This self-centeredness is rooted in the desire for monetary gain rather than a true passion for making a difference. It is imperative to recognize that genuine assistance cannot solely revolve around personal benefits or profits. The motivation to help others should transcend financial gains and derive from a sincere commitment to making a positive impact. Motivation matters.

Genuine Intentions:

An alternative approach to assisting others involves expressing a genuine desire to provide help without prioritizing compensation or personal gain. By adopting an "I can" or "I will" attitude, individuals can showcase their commitment to supporting others in achieving their goals. This authentic approach fosters trust and allows for genuine connections, enabling a more meaningful exchange of knowledge and experiences.

Toxicity and Manipulation:

When individuals solely focus on personal gain, it creates an atmosphere of toxicity and manipulation. People with self-serving motives tend to prioritize their own success over the well-being of others, leading to a lack of empathy and integrity. Such individuals are unlikely to receive the desired support or acceptance from those who can sense their ulterior motives, so they project an image of a caring person. Simply put, they lie.

If you are a mental health practitioner of any kind, and believe lying to your clients is morally justifiable then you are part of the problem I’m highlighting here.

Being of service to others is a fundamental principle that underpins personal growth and the development of successful businesses. By shifting the focus away from personal desires and towards genuinely helping others, individuals can create a stronger foundation for personal and professional success. True fulfillment comes from selflessly nurturing the growth of others, rather than seeking personal gain at their expense.

Capitalism cannot sit above honesty in priority if healthy authentic healing is to be had. Earning an income is important just not more important then doing the job right. IMO

In conclusion, the statements that begin with "I want" fail to acknowledge the importance of authenticity and selflessness in helping others. Profits and personal gain should not be the top driving force behind assistance and support. By embracing a genuine desire to help without expecting compensation, individuals can foster trust, build meaningful relationships, and ultimately contribute to personal and collective growth. Being of service is about putting others' needs before our own, creating a positive impact, and finding true fulfillment in the process.

There is the other half of this issue that I haven’t addressed yet. It has to do with people in need of mental health services and think they can heal for free. Even if I charge you nothing you still have to pay in the form of showing up and do the work to heal yourself. If you not willing to at least work on yourself. For free or not, no therapist or coach can help you. In other words of you don’t pay any cost with money, time, or both then you don’t respect the process.

It might be more correct to say

You “expect” from the process, and if that’s true know that it will never work out for you.

Stay Mindful

InteGritti

Nitti Gritti

Greetings from Chris

Hi there, I’m Chris (Nitti) Gritti and I’m a Mental Health Coach.

Lets just keep this clear and simple for full transparency.

I am not a college educated psychologist nor can I prescribe medications.  I am certified in cognitive behavioral therapy, but the bulk of my knowledge comes from life experience.  Tons and tons of trial and error which equals tons and tons of mistakes.  Those mistakes taught me that radical self acceptance, self love, and core confidence all come from choosing to let go of the victimhood identity and embracing the responsibility of the outcomes of our life choices. 

I’ve found my passion in helping others get on their own team and believe in themselves again. I am not the right Mental Health Coach for everyone, but I might be the right fit for you, so look around. Check out my content on YouTube and IG if you don’t get a clear vibe on me here at the site. No matter what i want to commend you for looking for someone to help you, and I wish you the best in finding the right therapist for you. 

Be Unapologetically You.

It’s okay if people don’t like you.

Mahalo and Aloha,

Chris Gritti

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