Disqualifying the Positive

Written By Nitti Gritti

Disqualifying the positive is a particularly subversive cognitive distortion. It’s a mindset that changes a positive event into a neutral or negative event. Leading one to reject positive experiences by insisting they “don’t count“ for some reason or another.

Processing any information in a biased way is cognitive dissonance. Meaning you choose to be bias against as opposed to except the situation. By disqualifying the positive they choose to only believe the negative aspects as relevant. It is not “all or nothing” thinking, but instead “it was nothing” thinking.

The quickest way I have found to spot this distortion is to notice that guilt is resting in the place where pride should be for a healthy mind body balance.

There is of course the counter part that is disqualifying the negative and it is a cognitive distortion for pretty much the same reason. The logic is based on a bias instead of objective observation.

Disqualifying the positive is an example of believing we can remake reality without realizing it is our subjective perception that is reframing something in a way that is unhealthy to us.

Stay Mindful

Gritti

Nitti Gritti

Greetings from Chris

Hi there, I’m Chris (Nitti) Gritti and I’m a Mental Health Coach.

Lets just keep this clear and simple for full transparency.

I am not a college educated psychologist nor can I prescribe medications.  I am certified in cognitive behavioral therapy, but the bulk of my knowledge comes from life experience.  Tons and tons of trial and error which equals tons and tons of mistakes.  Those mistakes taught me that radical self acceptance, self love, and core confidence all come from choosing to let go of the victimhood identity and embracing the responsibility of the outcomes of our life choices. 

I’ve found my passion in helping others get on their own team and believe in themselves again. I am not the right Mental Health Coach for everyone, but I might be the right fit for you, so look around. Check out my content on YouTube and IG if you don’t get a clear vibe on me here at the site. No matter what i want to commend you for looking for someone to help you, and I wish you the best in finding the right therapist for you. 

Be Unapologetically You.

It’s okay if people don’t like you.

Mahalo and Aloha,

Chris Gritti

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