Actions Speak Louder Than Words: Demonstrating Genuine Care Through Purposeful Actions

If I care, how do you know?

Caring is indeed best demonstrated through actions rather than empty gestures. While words can express concern, they may not always fully convey genuine care. Empathy is a crucial aspect of caring, as it involves feeling sorry for someone and understanding their pain. However, true care goes beyond empathy and involves taking action to address the needs and alleviate the suffering of others.

Consolation, though a well-intentioned gesture, may not always reflect the depth of one's care. If consolation is the only action taken, it begs the question of how much one truly cares about those they are consoling. It is essential to evaluate whether our actions align with our professed care for others. Consolation, costing us nothing, may not demonstrate the level of dedication required to truly help someone in need.

It is reasonable to consider that many individuals may believe they care more than they actually do. They may deceive themselves into thinking that their actions or thoughts prioritize others when, in reality, their self-interests take precedence. This self-delusion can hinder genuine care and prevent individuals from taking the necessary actions to help others.

One significant aspect to consider is the difference between wants and needs. Understanding this distinction is crucial to comprehending the true circumstances of individuals who require assistance. By acknowledging the basic needs of human beings and recognizing that some people have their needs adequately met while still suffering from unmet wants, we can identify the disparities within our society. This distinction highlights the privileged "haves" who possess more than enough to meet their needs.

In conclusion, caring is best demonstrated through actions that address the needs and alleviate the suffering of others. Consolation alone may not suffice to show genuine care. It is crucial for individuals to reflect on their actions and evaluate whether they genuinely prioritize the well-being of others. Understanding the difference between needs and wants can help us recognize the disparities within our society and take meaningful action to support those in need.

let go of entitlement and see with clarity.

Stay Mindful,

InteGritti

“You’re not poor, you’re broke.”

Just finished watching Chappelle’s latest comedy special THE DREAMER in the hopes that it would help me raise my mood. Mr. Chappelle’s comedy has been a balm for me many times in my life and I am so grateful for him and his voice in our tribe!

While watching it I recalled a quote from another Chappelle special that really resonated with me: "You're not poor. That's a mentality. You are broke." These words struck a deep chord within me because, like Dave, I have often found myself hating the feeling of being a step away from homelessness for most of my life. It's as if I'm trapped on the edge. I have failed to change my circumstances so far. Hope is a light within me that I now know will never go out while I’m alive, but sometimes I almost wish it would, so I would stop hoping others are going to show up and notice or help. It hurts to keep hoping and I want to shout it out loud too.

I F-ing hate being broke poor whatever, but I know my suffering is not for others to do anything about. It’s for me. So I I’m writing more in 2024. Making video content is fun but my heart hurts too much when nothing comes from them. If I blog and nobody notices it’s easier to bare. This is me not giving up.

Over the years, I have dedicated hundreds of thousands of hours to creating content aimed at helping people develop a healthy mindset and improve their mental health. However, I have hesitated to charge for courses or webinars because it feels disingenuous to me. I firmly believe that people today are not genuinely helped by coaches or therapists; instead, they seek comfort and validation. While there is nothing wrong with seeking comfort, I believe it is important to take the next step and process our emotions so that we can release or accept them.

Unfortunately, my commitment to honesty and genuine growth has left me financially broke. People who know ask me as often as they can for insight, but they don’t value it enough to give back. I cannot buy food or pay rent with a thank you, and while I’m honored, I’m still right now, as I write this, suffering from high anxiety and stress because I haven’t been able to find work that pays a wage I can live on, and only one person paid me for my help last year. I’ve seen other coaches and therapists building communities and having people promote them wholeheartedly. It seems that people are only willing to pay for services that make them feel good about themselves, rather than engaging in the deeper, more challenging work required for personal transformation. This mindset has created a barrier for me, as I struggle to find clients willing to pay for anything other than superficial comfort. These days, the thought frequently crosses my mind that I am wasting my time and nobody wants to hear what I have to say.

However, I believe that there are individuals out there who yearn for more than just validation. They are seeking honest guidance and support in their journey towards self-acceptance and growth. Despite the prevailing mindset, I am determined to stay true to my values and find innovative ways to bridge the gap between comfort and genuine personal development. By offering my unique perspective and creating opportunities for deeper exploration, I hope to connect with those who are ready to embrace the transformative power of honesty and growth.

Am I wrong? Where are you all? I don’t want an empire, I just want to help. Help for real!!!! Not lie, manipulate, or cheat for profit.

There are so many others who get support or funding, but I can't help but feel invisible... Sorry, I acknowledge that my bitterness is showing.

I won't sell out, but I am coming to the understanding that people can't tell the difference anymore between a "sellout" and someone being honest and authentic, if we ever could tell the difference to begin with.

Bottom line, my rent went up today and I’m struggling. I put out soooooo much free content, and it’s never going to be enough for a miracle because nobody is watching and nobody cares about me, and I realize now that might be my problem. People want free things but have no respect for it. Just a bunch of takers.

I’m not going to share this post today anywhere on social media because my heart aches so much today. If you’ve read it, then you can come to my website, and I’m grateful.

Sorry if this bummed anyone out, but honestly, I do not believe anyone will read this or respond to it.

That’s it for today. I’m going to go clean something and try not to wonder how I’m going to pay rent next month and eat.

huge thank you to my 1 patreon supporter for her continued faith and support. I appreciate you. And thank you Mr. Chappelle for being a role model and an example of a human with empathy and integrity in these crazy times.

Stay Mindful.

InteGritti.

I am the lotus

I am the lotus

In the arid desert of life, I find my place,

A lotus flower, blooming with grace.

Amidst the dry sands and scorching heat,

I rise above, finding solace and retreat.

Rooted in resilience, I stand tall and strong,

Defying the odds, where struggles belong.

Petals unfurl, to face the sun's embrace,

A symbol of beauty in a sadly barren space.

I am a lotus, born from adversity's call,

Nurtured by hope, I overcome all.

In the parched expanse, I find my peace,

A testament to endurance, my release.

Amidst the vast dunes, I find my purpose,

To inspire, to bloom, and to surface.

In this desert of life, where challenges reside,

I am the lotus, with strength deep inside.

Through adversity's trials, I embrace the pain,

Transforming it into growth, again and again.

Immersed in the desert, I am not defined,

For I am the lotus, a symbol so refined.

So let me be your reminder in times of despair,

That even in deserts, beauty can be found there.

Embrace the challenges, like a lotus in bloom,

And find your own oasis, in life's desert room.

Stay Mindful

InteGritti

The Ecological Impact of Human Entitlement and the Urgency for Change

Humanity's survival is under threat due to our collective failure to recognize and address the consequences of our actions. This essay explores the detrimental impact of human entitlement on our environment and emphasizes the urgent need for change. As a species, we have become disconnected from the intricate web of life that sustains us, leading to destructive practices that undermine the very home we inhabit.

The Disconnect between Actions and Consequences

Human entitlement stems from a misguided belief that we have the right to exploit and disregard the natural world without repercussions. Why is it misguided??? Because we just made it up. We recognized our power and almost instantly we allowed it to corrupt us into believing we deserved it and that is why we have the power. Power corrupts….not power sometimes corrupts.

ADHD tangent:

I feel like we would have added that little addendum of “sometimes” to avoid the obvious paradox of everyone fighting for power. If you want power and believe you are not vulnerable to corruption I’d question your cognitive abilities.

What does it say about a human who passionately desires and chases power? A power hungry leader is not going to help us grow in any sort of healthy way. A power hungry leader will definitely help us grow more corrupt.

now back to my main point in this essay.

This mentality has led to the degradation of ecosystems, pollution of air and water, and the depletion of valuable resources. Far too many individuals fail to grasp the interconnectedness of their actions with the health of the planet. A lack of awareness and empathy perpetuates the cycle of behavior detrimental to our survival.

The Price of Ignorance

The consequences of our actions are becoming increasingly evident. Climate change, deforestation, and species extinction are just a few examples of the environmental crises we face. The impacts are not limited to the natural world alone, as our own well-being is intricately linked to the health of the ecosystems we depend on. It is essential to recognize that the earth is not solely our home; it is a shared home, teeming with diverse life forms that contribute to the delicate balance of our existence.

A Call for Responsibility and Change

To ensure our survival, we must shift our perspective and adopt a more responsible approach towards our environment. This requires a fundamental shift in attitudes and behaviors, where we prioritize sustainability, conservation, and the protection of ecosystems. Education and awareness play a crucial role in fostering a sense of connection and responsibility towards the natural world. By understanding the consequences of our actions and embracing sustainable practices, we can begin to repair the damage we have caused.

Power comes from responsibility, but if you think it comes with entitlements as well you are part of the downfall of our species. Yeah I said it.

The current state of humanity, characterized by entitlement and disregard for the environment, is a cause for concern. However, it is not too late to reverse this course. Through increased awareness, collective action, and a sense of shared responsibility, we can begin to repair the damage and ensure the survival of our species. It is time to recognize that our home is not just ours; it is a planet that we share with countless other species. By embracing a more sustainable and empathetic approach, we can forge a path towards a thriving future for all.

Remember no living thing deserves a path of fulfillment and thriving. We aren’t entitled to live or dominate here. We think we do because we said so.

Grab a slice of humble pie and evaluate yourself if you believe you care.

Stay Mindful

InteGritti

I just realize something after writing this. The only way to challenge my confirmation bias would be for someone to actually respond, which would mean they have to read this, and I sincerely doubt very many do especially all the way to the end here again because they don’t care for my writing isn’t interesting enough For they don’t like the way they feel about this issue or blah blah blah blah blah. I’m writing this fully believing it’ll be a drop in the bucket and no one will notice. I decided to write this part so if I’m proven wrong it’ll be on the record that I am absolutely open to being proven wrong, but I’m not worried.